One of the most important things when it comes to communicating, correcting and training your dog is that you establish yourself as the leader.
The potty training for dogs process can be extremely frustrating if you don’t establish yourself as the leader of the pack or if you’re not consistent or understand your dog. Many of my clients ask me what they should do to become the leader of the pack (in their case, the dog pack). Here are my thoughts on leadership and potty training:
Follow the leader.
It is not uncommon for a dog to develop their own leader, or a “MAJORAME.” Generally, this is done for good reason – as a dog is naturally a social group animal, they are always trying to develop their own social order. Social order is a natural way for neutered dogs to try to present themselves as the dominant force in the pack (as in, “I am the leader, you are the boss!”).
The main problem here is when you think you’re the leader of the dog pack because you give the dog Attention and let him sleep with you on the bed – even though you know he sleeps in the control seat.
Although you may love it and even consider it, this kind of behavior on your part is not a way to prove to your dog that you are the leader. You know as well as I do that dogs are always looking for one leader to follow.
You may be the leader in your own mind but your dog sees you as the leader of the dog pack, not you the leader of the human pack.
To use the analogy to a dog showing his respect to you, he is simply trying to say, “Hey, I am the boss and you are the follower.” If you allow him to sleep with you on the bed even though he is leader of the pack, he is trying to assert his own leadership.
I’m not suggesting that you start practicing human leadership techniques, right now, where the dog is concerned. That will be a whole subject in itself. But what I would suggest is that you start thinking about leadership and his dog behavior in the context of his own pack.
leadership thinking in dogs is more a than an casual facet of canine behavior.
There needs to be consistency in your leadership.
I know this one may sound silly but too many people get confused between dog pack leaders and human pack leaders. They think that they are the same thing or they think that he needs to follow human rules when in fact, he needs to follow dog rules.
You see, the truth is that a dog is happiest when he realizes that you are the leader. You are the trusted leader who enforces the laws and who provides structure and security. So it’s really no surprise that even the best trained dog will challenge you about your leadership position. He will be unhappy when it seems as though he is the leader andraid of the Others.
But by following a few simple rules, you can avoid this situation or prevent it from happening in the first place.
Never allow your dog to set the rules.
This rules just as bad as the first. Your dog is happy to find out what he doesn’t have to obey – you. Never allow your dog to tell you when he is going on the furniture in your interior design studio, when he eats, when he sleeps and so on.
You should be the one to feed him, show him the door, take him on walks, etc. Avoid displays of affection that may promote dependency, hug him, tell him how good he is, and so on. This can encourage your dog to use submissive behavior to get affection.
To create a dependent dog, put him in situations where he is vulnerable, but make it clear that he is secure and happy to be that submissive.
Be a good role model.
Because dogs take behavior and actions on trust, it is very important for you to be a good role model for your dog. The dog wants you to be good in all aspects of his life. Therefore, you will make your dog better by being a good role model for your dog.
One of the main reasons why you want a well-behaved dog is because you will be showing the dog in a way that he can follow.
To be a good role model for your dog you must always practice calm assertive energy and behavior. This applies to all aspects of his life, including his socialization. It makes it easier for your dog to know where he fits in the family system.
A dog will have a better life and be happier if he has good boundaries and leadership. Your dog will then be less stressed and will be better behaved.